STOP the comparison of yourself and others. STOP letting others give their examination and assessment of your life . ONLY His assessment matters.

Proverbs 16:11 A just balance belongs to the Lord; all the weights of the bag are His concern.

Proverbs 20:23 Differing weights are and abomination to the Lord, and a false scale is not good.

Psalms 139:23-24 Search me, O God , and know my heart; try me and know my anxious thoughts, and see if there be any hurtful way in me, and lead me the everlasting way.

James 4:6-10 But He gives a greater grace. Therefore it says, “God is opposed to he proud, but gives grace to the humble. Submit therefore to God, Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Be miserable and mourn and weep, let your laughter be turned into mourning and your joy into gloom. Humble yourselves in the presence of the Lord, and He will exalt you.

No one else can measure me. God is the measure I should use to weigh my efforts.

Weighing yourself through the world’s eyes, another’s eyes, against another’s efforts or appearance is not a righteous endeavor. Always go to the Word and measure yourself with the Truth.Let God in to judge you. Seek His measure daily and let Him have His way in your life. Be in the Word (draw near to Him and purify your hearts). Let Him be the exalting force instead of exalting yourself. Humble yourself so that He might do a good work in you and be glorified in the process.
Don’t be quick to defend yourself to others. It would be a vain attempt boast. Instead close your mouth in humility, knowing any goodness in you comes from God.  Seek God to solve the unsolvable problems that seem to make your efforts meaningless when weighed by inaccurate scales.

SO, what are His requirements?
Luke 10:27 And he answered, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your strength, and with all your mind; and your neighbor as yourself.”

Love Him,  spend your time with Him,exercise your faith and fruits of the Spirit, do His will submitting your life to Him, love others.

Matthew 10:34–39 “Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to turn ‘a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law—a man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.’ Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Whoever does not take up their cross and follow me is not worthy of me. Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it.”

God is not looking for perfection, so why are others asking for it. He wants our submission, our devotion, our commitment to Him.

Matthew 11:29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from . I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

Jesus balances us when we allow Him to take full possession of our lives. When we look to others instead of Him to measure our efforts, we take Him out of first place. He should be our first love.

Matthew 6:33
But seek first His Kingdom and His righteousness and all these things will be added to you.

He promises that if you seek Him above all else that all of the nuisances and necessities of life will be taken care of. You will find your way through life through His guidance. You will find your purpose, passion, and path.

Note: This is scripture from a devotional from Focus on the Family, titled Balance Living. It is something that I struggle with more than I like to admit. I’ve added my thoughts on today’s reading. I am not a scholar, just seeking His will and letting the Holy Spirit be my guide.